A good friend recently said to me, “You know, I’ve been trying to lose weight since we met.” We both laughed, but she’s right. We’ve known each other since our teenagers were toddlers…and we’ve gone through every kind of diet together, I think.
The thing is (and I don’t want to sound like I’m bragging here), my friend is drop dead gorgeous. I may possibly be biased because all of my friends seem like supermodels to me, but this mindset in my friend makes no sense. She’s strong, she works out regularly, and she eats a mostly healthy diet. No one, other than her, would look at her and say, “Ah, she could stand to lose a few pounds.”
Let me say this right now: If you have any friends who look at you and say, “Ah, you could stand to lose a few pounds,” those friends are assholes. Walk away quickly (and there’s your cardio for the day!).
Are you like my friend? Have you been trying to lose weight for as long as you can remember? What’s stopping you from reaching your goals?
How long are you going to do this yo-yo thing?
What if we change your mindset? What if you stop focusing on the scale and focus on yourself? What do I mean by that? Instead of standing on the scale and lamenting that you still need to lose weight, try this:
Focus on a strength goal.
How often do you lift weights? Do you lift the same 5-pound weights every time? Three times a week of lifting the exact same thing? Start pushing yourself. You are stronger than you think! Invest in some heavier weights and start using them. (Want some help with the exercises? I can help!)
Focus on a distance goal.
Is running your thing? Biking? How about swimming? Put away your scale and start moving. Move faster, move longer. Be proud of what your body can do!
Focus on your food.
Surely you’ve heard this, right? You can’t out-exercise a poor diet.
Focus on what you love most about yourself.
Face it. You’re going to be with you for the rest of your life. That’s a long time to spend with someone who says mean things. Why not change the conversation? Start finding those things you love.
How long are you going to define yourself by a number on your scale?